Nowadays when it comes time the young or the young man of God a boyfriend, girlfriend or a serious relationship that ends up being something very delicate. It should not be so, but lately have been the thing is even more difficult because it's been some time in our society has come at the popularisation of sensuality and eroticism, especially among younger people.The consequence is that these events are dominating and hurting very affective relations of these boys and girls. We can see that it has become increasingly and unfortunately comes up contaminating some young Christians.
Before commenting on how to find a girlfriend or boyfriend how to find God, we make clear a point that is crucial to the success of any loving relationship, especially for the children of God: we are speaking of spiritual bondage .
Spiritual bondage? What is this?
The word of God guides us on this important foundation. All this makes our God of Love for us, innocently, we will not fall into the traps of the enemy.
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of the living God, as God said, dwell in them and walk among them and I will be their God and they shall be my people.Wherefore, come ye out from among them and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch no unclean thing, and I will receive;and I will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.
2 Corinthians 14-18
Yoked field is uneven. The Christian has his life dominated by the wonderful and redeeming love of Jesus Christ. The Christian is set apart by God and for God.On the other hand the unbeliever has dominated his life for God's world, the devil. Both definitely are not on the same domain.
There are people who think that a relationship that is marked by unequal yoke can even work out with time, unfortunately I have to warn that person that she is very mistaken. This type of relationship is just based on anxiety, pain and great suffering for the Christian. This is entirely preventable.
A relationship where there is an unequal yoke is like a yoke of oxen in which each animal decides to follow their own direction. As one goes the other goes right to the left. Thus already given to see that neither pro swamp they will get to go together.
Many young people are left with several questions about dating or not someone who is not part of the church. This is a very complicated question. The word of God guides us that we should not relate to unbelievers. Some young people do not understand why the Lord make such a recommendation. They find it all a great exaggeration.
In a relationship, over time, will people interacting and sharing their experiences until they begin to act and do things almost equal. The Word of God tells us that a couple is no longer composed of two different people, and yes, they become one person.Thus one who is associated with an unbeliever will end up being one with that person. Not to mention that you will suffer a lot to keep your own communion with God. Our Love of God is warning us not to get into a relationship with an unbeliever because that person will move away from the righteous ways of the Lord.
Not infrequently a Christian be charmed by a man or a woman in the world. Way to go! I think we all know how the devil work, he always gives us the best, cutest, most charming, the most enjoyable ...We can not never forget that he is the father of the father of lies and deception. Therefore, the demon will only offer us something, if this thing is apparently very good, especially if it is something we want, otherwise nobody would accept something bad. You like something bad and ugly? I do not like.
A small example:
We all know the trap. The trap is a kind of trap to catch birds. The hunter will not fit inside the trap any bait. It will put exactly what the bird likes. The hunter will put a few pieces of bread, fruit, corn, and everything else that the bird likes. Everything to make the bird a prisoner. When the bird is under the hunter's trap disarms the trap and the poor little bird is trapped inside.
The same thing happens to us. At first it seems hard to understand, but we hear the Word of God and act by faith and trust in what He is guiding us.
The word of God is faithful and powerful to protect us from all the assaults of the enemy. Our enemy wants only to our separation from God and then destroy us too. He knows very well that in the company of the Lord he can do nothing against us, so he must first separate us from God and love Him and then invest heavily in our destruction ..
If you must go slowly and be very careful with our relationships within the church thinks outside. No way! Some say that the Young brothers and sisters of the church are people without grace, without salt and without emotion and that is better and more exciting to relate to someone in the world. That's where the danger lies. This is precisely what our God wants to avoid: our pain and suffering.
Now let's talk about how we can get a boyfriend or a girlfriend really God.
It starts with a true and sincere friendship. It is through a friendship that both can learn from there and build a relationship as more affectivity dating.Where do the friendships?
On the internet?In a bar?In school?At a rock concert?In the church?In a prayer group?
Give preference to their friends in surroundings that you know you have everything to do with the type of relationship you want for your life. If one seeks a relationship based on faith, holiness and communion with God he will rarely find your partner, a rock concert or a bar.
It is obvious that making friends in a church or prayer group will be a more excellent way for anyone to find a relationship truly of God. Not only is the place where you know the person that is important. It is essential that the person with whom you will make friends and you see there is a possibility of a more serious relationship professes, truly, and not just lip service, but also with concrete attitudes, the same faith as yours.This is going to be a giant step for you to gain not only a great friendship as well as the opportunity to see one born among you loving relationship more serious and lasting.
Therefore, if anyone still not accepted in his life the Lord Jesus Christ as their God, their liberator and savior and to top that person wishes to maintain a relationship or a person wants to win evangelical, I must warn that person that this is not no easy task.
It is necessary for the life of the person who is interested by another that is evangelical, there is a transformation and a true conversion. It is essential that there is sincerity and faithfulness not only to himself but also with God and His word.
Delight yourself in the Lord, and he shall give thee the desires of your heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord, trust him, and he will do. Salmo 37: 4:05
Commit thy way unto the Lord, trust him, and he will do. Psalm 37: 5
Seek first His kingdom and His righteousness and all these things shall be added. Matthew 6:33
In the past you have tried a boyfriend or girlfriend to your liking, heart, desire and dreams. However, this only brought you disappointment, suffering and disappointment. So how about you now do everything differently. How about trying to abandon the arms of the Lord and let Him do in your life the wonderful plans He has for you.
What I have to do for God to accomplish His plans in my life?
For God to accomplish His plans for your life, you have to first believe and have confidence that He is powerful enough to care and to fulfill any desire of his heart, and that He is always the best for you.You want all your heart's desires are not realized?
Of course you do! However, if in his heart there is some desire that is not according to God's plan for your life abundant and happy, It is obvious that this desire is not done, remember? God always wants the best for you. Unfortunately we are flawed and often we ourselves do not want what is best for our lives.
Ok! I made a great friendship with a kid friendly and a beautiful young woman. And now? How to know if that boy or that girl is a beautiful person according to God's will for my life?
The desire to be with the other person is a natural consequence of true communion between the two hearts that love. This comes naturally to the friendship and mutual understanding. During this stage, you can learn more from each other and note the similarity between the thoughts, emotions, ways of seeing life, feelings, desires, and also the plans for the future. It really is something very natural.
While knowledge is occurring between the two is important to note some very important features:
If you maintain a relationship with a person and realize that this person respects you, show kindness, concern, care and worry about approaching you first God, the Lord Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit of God and their parents andfamily, that person is certainly a person according to God's heart for your life.
Amen and thank God. Stay in the peace of the Lord Jesus Christ.